Badass Single Mothers (because if you’re doing it, if you’re managing it, you are one)


“This suuuuucks!!” she screams, and still shows up.

She smarts at talk of “bravery”, she’s doing whatever works.

She looks for work and looks again.

She plans the holidays and smothers her pain.

She swears and looks the other way.

She laughs and cries – a lot or not.

She loses it and, sad to say –

She’s sleeping with her eyes wide open.

Because she’s prepared to be seen – she’s not pretending – 

She’s a badass single mother, and that is worth defending.

This is not what she meant when she said yes,

Not the vision she held,

Not the future she planned to bless.

But the present.

So she’s still

holding up

standing up

falling down

standing up

and falling down again.

Because – this will come as no surprise –

Badasses rise.

Jsg/oct 15

4 thoughts on “Badass Single Mothers (because if you’re doing it, if you’re managing it, you are one)”

  1. Yes! Definitely relate-able. You forgot cries in shower silently.
    Are you familiar with the Harlem Renaissance poet, Langston Hughes? He wrote this poem about mothers, called-“Mother to Son”

    Well, son, I’ll tell you:
    Life for me ain’t been no crystal stair.
    It’s had tacks in it,
    And splinters,
    And boards torn up,
    And places with no carpet on the floor—
    But all the time
    I’se been a-climbin’ on,
    And reachin’ landin’s,
    And turnin’ corners,
    And sometimes goin’ in the dark
    Where there ain’t been no light.
    So, boy, don’t you turn back.
    Don’t you set down on the steps.
    ‘Cause you finds it’s kinder hard.
    Don’t you fall now—
    For I’se still goin’, honey,
    I’se still climbin’,
    And life for me ain’t been no crystal stair.

    ~Langston Hughes

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